What could happen when we grow old?
 

Hi bro and sis,

Another self-reflection but quite silly question to some of you.
I have this query in my mind. your upmost opinions and thoughts will be upmost useful. Thank you

I am still an dirty oldman… not so old yet, but old.:D
However, I am still able to control my small head, not to do something silly.

What could happen, if becoming old that my big head cannot control over the dirty urge, and go into crazy acts.
Worst case, “ up lorry” or big big head shot picture is posted on newspaper crime page with title “ dirty oldman caught in the act! “

Sigh…

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Treat every ladies with respect whenever u see ... mind always she just another ppl wife / daughter just like yrs
Can see cannot touch no matter how chio n sexy ... unless she want to / u pay $$$ for service
Haiz I old already too but always young at heart .... :)

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Young at heart but still feel lonely at times?

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Temptation is always there.

Just because the opportunity presents itself, doesn't mean you must act on it.

Better to pay for the service and manage your urges every once in awhile then suppress it.

It can be manage, like I am doing so for the past 1 year or so, since I became single again.

All the best.

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Awesome!
Thank you on sharing your ideas and thoughts

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Well noted. Thank you very
I am still good now, manageable…

Just think that if I can live long enough for another 20 years.. by then.
:)

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Small head still young :)

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How far is the runway....5, 10 or 20 years is something we can not predict with certainty.

History is the past, fuck it.

Future is something we don't know, fuck it.

Most important is now, today. Make the best of it.

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Also live healthy and dun burden family...best can still do everything ownself...:)

Can eat sleep and drink...can still speak clearly...keep active minds...:)

Can travel the world...no debt no liabilities no dues...:)

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I dun think you want to get into trouble and headline news...:)

Tried not to play anything dangerous including bungee jumping, fark like rabbits, ride a jetski or go yachting alone...:)

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Growing old is not what it is made out to be. It's horrendous. This is why it is so important to fuck your brains out while you are still able. :D

https://theconversation.com/tirednes...pocket-newtab#



Molly was 88 years old and in good health. She had outlived two husbands, her siblings, most of her friends and her only son.

“I don’t have any meaningful relationships left, dear,” she told me. “They’ve all died. And you know what? Underneath it all, I want to leave this world too.” Leaning a little closer, as though she was telling me a secret, she continued:

Shall I tell you what I am? I’m strong. I can admit to myself and to you that there’s nothing left for me here. I’m more than ready to leave when it’s my time. In fact, it can’t come quickly enough.

I’ve interviewed many older people for research. Every so often, I’m struck by the sincerity with which some people feel that their life is completed. They seem tired of being alive.

I’m a member of of the European Understanding Tiredness of Life in Older People Research Network, a group of geriatricians, psychiatrists, social scientists, psychologists and death scholars. We want to better understand the phenomenon and unpick what is unique about it. The network is also working on advice for politicians and healthcare practices, as well as caregiver and patient support.

Professor of care ethics Els van Wijngaarden and colleagues in the Netherlands listened to a group of older people who were not seriously ill, yet felt a yearning to end their lives. The key issues they identified in such people were: aching loneliness, pain associated with not mattering, struggles with self-expression, existential tiredness, and fear of being reduced to a completely dependent state.

Older man walking in the autumn park
Being tired of life is a unique despair. SasaStock/Shutterstock

This need not be the consequence of a lifetime of suffering, or a response to intolerable physical pain. Tiredness of life also seems to arise in people who consider themselves to have lived fulfilling lives. One man of 92 told the network’s researchers:

You have no effect on anything. The ship sets sail and everyone has a job, but you just sail along. I am cargo to them. That’s not easy. That’s not me. Humiliation is too strong a word, but it is bordering on it. I simply feel ignored, completely marginalised.

Another man said:

Look at the condition of those old ladies in the building opposite. Gaunt and half-dead, pointlessly driven around in a wheelchair … It has nothing to do with being human anymore. It is a stage of life I simply don’t want to go through.

A unique suffering

The American novelist Philip Roth wrote that “old age is not a battle, old age is a massacre”. If we live long enough, we can lose our identity, physical capabilities, partner, friends and careers.

For some people, this elicits a deep-rooted sense that life has been stripped of meaning – and that the tools we need to rebuild a sense of purpose are irretrievable.

Care professor Helena Larsson and colleagues in Sweden have written about a gradual “turning out of the lights” in old age. They argue that people steadily let go of life, until they reach a point where they are ready to turn off the outside world. Larsson’s team raises the question of whether this might be inevitable for us all.

Of course, this sort of suffering shares characteristics (it’s depressing and painful) with anguish we encounter at other points in life. But it’s not the same. Consider the existential suffering that might arise from a terminal illness or recent divorce. In these examples, part of the suffering is connected to the fact that there is more of life’s voyage to make – but that the rest of the journey feels uncertain and no longer looks the way we fantasised it would.

This sort of suffering is often tied to mourning a future we feel we should have had, or fearing a future we are uncertain about. One of the distinctions in tiredness of life is that there is no desire for, or mourning of, a future; only a profound sense that the journey is over, yet drags on painfully and indefinitely.
The global view

In countries where euthanasia and assisted suicide are legal, doctors and researchers are debating whether tiredness of life meets the threshold for the sort of unceasing emotional suffering that grants people the right to euthanasia.

The fact that this problem is common enough for researchers to debate it may suggest that modern life has shut older people out of western society. Perhaps elders are no longer revered for their wisdom and experience. But it’s not inevitable. In Japan, age is seen as a spring or rebirth after a busy period of working and raising children. One study found older adults in Japan showed higher scores on personal growth compared with midlife adults, whereas the opposite age pattern was found in the US.

Surgeon and medical professor Atul Gawande argues that in western societies, medicine has created the ideal conditions for transforming ageing into a “long, slow fade”. He believes quality of life has been overlooked as we channel our resources towards biological survival. This is unprecedented in history. Tiredness of life may be evidence of the cost.

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Ya…
Live to our fullest :)

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Hahahahahaha
Good one…

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Thank you Boss on your comments and thoughts

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I will be 60 soon don't know if can qualify to be a "DOM", I used to have high libido, now its has mellowed a lot but doesn't mean I no longer have the urge. Difference for me is I won't drop everything just to have it satisfied unlike when I was younger.