What is the most important factor in finding girls for sex?
 

I wanna hear your guys opinions on what factor in a guy will make a normal women (as in not working ladies) want to sleep with you easier?

Firstly i'm asking here in this section because i want to hear a much more serious point of view. As it is a real life matter rather than fantasy.

Secondly i'm referring to attracting normal girls for sex. Not working ladies. And purely just for sex. FWB / One night stands... or play play relationship. Not referring to long term relationship girlfriend kind of sex.

I understand many times in life money can override everything, so would you think that,

1. Having good looks / good body
2. Knowing how to sweet talk
3. Having alot of money


I'll chip in my own later as i don't want to lead the answers.

Now let's hear from you :)

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One word sums it all... Charisma.. Its not about looks only... its the whole damn package

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Young and Handsome bah:p

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I think the most important consideration is how trustworthy is the lady.She can be beautiful, nice body but behind u moonlight with other guys.

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Communication is number 1 factor, and understanding the girls' needs (eventually hitting the right buttons for sex)! Communicate well, one probably can have an ONS by tonight!

Yes charisma and nvr show that you are so desperate,cool and steady shld be the way to conduct yourself

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Depends on the girl and what turns her on. All girls are different. From their background, to nationality, to culture, to language.

I lost track of the number of girls I shagged that don't fall in the area of paid sex. I can try to illustrate the differences with a few of those I can still remember.

- 2 Thai girls I rode in very late 2014. Both of them are good friends whom I helped out of kindness when they were bullied in Singapore by a crappy hotel staff who overswiped their credit card and refused to pay back. My intervention escalated the situation but got their money back. I found another better hotel for them at a much cheaper rate and spent the night bringing then around. I guess they let me fuck them both out of gratitude as the positivity we built during the whole evening helped a lot.

- Thai girl I helped while lounging in Bangkok when she was harrassed by a drunk caucasian. Chatted the night and built the positivity between us which led to 1 night of endless bonks.

- PRC northern girl who is a customer of a friend. I helped my friend to deliver the mobile phone to this PRC northern girl who happened to have lost it at the eatery where my friend worked. Sent it over to a grateful PRC girl with very voluptuous figure and fair complexion. She wanted to thank me for the help by buying me dinner. We had a good chat but I did the unimaginable by footing the bill with the standard toilet excuse. This paved the way for a 2nd meet up. We went drinking at Clarke Quay and I paid her share after I enjoyed myself so much. She wasn't pleased so we went into a hotel and I creampied her that night. We maintained this relationship for a few months as she went with birth control after that pregnancy close shave on the first night. We went to KL, Malacca, Batam always clubbing before exciting sex. We ended our relationship when she went back to China after her boss closed down the outlet she was working at. Her loneliness played a part and my appearance at the right time doing the right thing was crucial.

- Another PRC girl who was working as a preschool teacher who was crying at the car park where I just went for a massage. I approached her and asked if she was OK. Gave her some tissue to dry her tears and tried to talk to her. It turned out that she was beaten by her PRC bf again. I brought her for dinner as she had not taken her dinner and drove her around to forget about the problems. Gave her my thoughts about her case and found her bf is an arranged marriage by her parents who insisted her to marry. We didn't do anything that day but she did cry on my shoulder and I held her hand and exchanged wechat ID. I followed up to make sure she was OK the next day and things normalized. We continued to chat and one night she messaged me on wechat out of the blue asking me for help. Her bf was making a din outside her rental flat and it was disturbing her neighbours. By the time I arrived, there were police officers arresting a man who looked very agitated. She was crying and so I brought her out that night to get a breath of fresh air. We chatted about many stuffs and of course fucked her that night. I think she was trying to do something that will psychologically build her resolve to leave the abusive bf whom she was trapped by obligation with. Having sex with another man happens to be the best way.

- PRC nurse working in one of the major hospitals. I was visiting my colleague when I witnessed another family verbally abusing at a PRC nurse with nationality discrimination. I　 stood up for her by telling the family off. I think that created a good impression. Her colleagues streamed in and tried to explain the confusion while she was noticeably tearing up. When I was leaving the hospital, I bumped into her at the ground floor and asked if she was OK. Struck up a conversation and I guess it created a good impression. We went for supper and drove around, shared common interests like travelling and found that she 'drinks socially'. I suggested going on a trip to KL on the weekend and she agreed. This means she is open to sex. Didn't have to make things clear. We drove up to KL, shared a room and partied. Of course shagged her several times in the night.

The only consistency is a positive experience regarding my first impression to them. Good conversation holding, helpful and sensitive to their needs. They want sex but they need a good reason to have sex with me, so provide that reason. Many things go tacit and you need to read signs. Don't sound/look desperate. Look confident, don't be calculative with money, there is no free lunch in the world. Having a car helps but it is not a must. You can compensate it with Grab nowadays with good planning on where to go.

Good luck.

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Wow bro nice story. Quick question, do you think there is a difference between getting Singaporean ladies, or PRC?

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Those are just recollections of my memory. Not fictitious stories.

Singaporean ladies are predominantly a mixture of racists, self entitled, lazy and being fat. They are also very risky to handle. There is a history of Singaporean women reneging on their sexual encounters with men they find disposable giving you endless nightmares. I shun them normally.

Thai, Vietnamese, PRC women are culturally more liberal and less inclined to capitalize on the legal leverage of women in Singapore. Anyway, they don't get anything out of it unless you really piss them off. So I stick to them.

I find PRC easier because of a language advantage and stronger availability of PRC women doing normal jobs here.

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Haha sorry I don't mean it that way. I meant that I appreciate the sharing of your past. I think singaporean ladies are slightly different in this sense. The funny thing is some woman needs the commitment in order for anything physical to happen.

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Singaporean women are in general very different from foreign women. But maybe your experience might differ.

Being Caucasian or wealthy helps a lot on top of being good looking, humourous and charismatic. Takes a lot more to get someone who lacks the overall package in giving a positive experience. Not worth it. I had a few experiences which I hate to be reminded of.

Once I met a local fat girl whom I just wanted to be nice to without ulterior motive. She ate like a pig at the restaurant and when I sent her home like a gentleman, no touchy, no hanky panky, she was still ok but suddenly when someone walked by, she shouted at me that she will never sleep with me and called me a creep when I have not even floated that crazy idea of doing that.. I was really caught by both shock and embarrassment.

Another time when I went to meet a local girl from a car club for a meal. Also, clean and respectful outing with no hanky panky. we were ok throughout but my friends started telling me later this girl went around telling others I molested her one day during a group outing. She was actually interested in another guy whom she was trying to catch his attention.

I got several other horror stories.
Local girls? Hell no...

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Thank you for sharing your stories. I think it'd also be good to share the not so good stories also as there such to be things we can take away from it.

May i know if you are Caucasian or Good Looking? :)

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Fully agreed on this

In short; you’re asking how to get laid for free.
First and foremost, It’s quite disheartening to see that Escorts/Fls are labelled as non normal girls. Sorry to burst your bubble but we are all under the Homo sapiens umbrella. I found these stereotypes and and misconceptions about escorting experience to always be false during my 3 months dabbling in this alter ego. (Feel free to check out my thread) (and NO; I’m not here to promote my arse but to shed some lights to the ‘stereotypes’ and ‘labels’). Disclaimer: I do not speak for all the FLs out there but me.

1. Apologies amigo, but nothing is free. You’re actually trading your precious time for a ‘chance’ to get laid liken to a baccarat; the date being the ‘house’ at most instances. And most times; a date wouldn’t be free as well.
2. When it comes to the matters of the intangible; blanket statements eg.singaporeans are fat, lazy doesn’t apply as it boils down to individuality.

To answer ur ques..imho,
1. Statuo quo of the person (being a female or Male) and what they are looking for; just after a horrible break up or business traveller/backpacker or in the mood for sexual adventures or they are just looking for sugar daddies..it boils down to their status quo
2. Materials and looks to a certain degree helps a little but it’s easily written off if he has impeccable personality (but it boils down to no 1; if someone is looking for a daddy or to be pampered by then it’s tough to get free sex from them).
3. I think humans are dynamic creatures and in constant evolution..being in the right place and time plays an important role as well.

This is my confession,
I enjoy transient non-committal companionship
With mind blowing fuck as pre-requisite
And token of appreciation as the physical validation to my alter ego.

I’m pretty liberal when it comes to the carnal needs (being abroad for half a decade of my adolescence). When it comes to the carnal needs, it’s never about the checklist of whether he has a Richard Mille watch or takes me to expensive venues; it has always been the vibe and my mental/emotional statuo quo at that point of time. (The irony is I’ve got a soft spot for roadside baskers; hence, not all singaporeans are $$ driven).

Hope the above will be some sort of a tangent or help to you.

All the best! ����

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Unfortunately, when you offer your body in a service oriented transaction to acquire monetary gains, it deviates you from normality. You may retain the dignity of what makes you human as an unalienable right. But you lose that sense of normality from the perspective of a sex laced relationship.

So assuming you are a FL/escort, should the person you are shagging who also just helped you out in a race attack at the expense of his safety pay for this 'service' at the end of it?

'Wait is this a service? Am I hiring a FL right now or are we doing it because it is a natural progression of our feelings?' You might have your own definition but the moment the guy knows what you do, it confuses the hell out of him pushing him into the boundaries of abnormalities.