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Originally Posted by peregrene
Sounds like you have low self-esteem bro. Lots go through it in their life. I had it at one time too
To boost your self-esteem, you need to identify the negative beliefs you have about yourself, then challenge them.
You may tell yourself you're "too stupid" to apply for a new job, for example, or that "nobody cares" about you.
Start to note these negative thoughts and write them on a piece of paper or in a diary. Ask yourself when you first started to think these thoughts.
Next, start to write some evidence that challenges these negative beliefs, such as, "I'm really good at cryptic crosswords" or "My sister calls for a chat every week".
Write down other positive things about yourself, such as "I'm thoughtful" or "I'm a great cook" or "I'm someone that others trust".
You will get out of it.
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OP: you have been given good advice like this time after time over the years which you seem determined not to take. So carry on with the self pity and see you again on a couple of years.
Or since internet advice isn’t working for you, go find some face to face advice. Someone who will actually apply pressure on you to change because you have clearly gotten too comfortable in your pathetic state with no real desire or ability to break out of it.