Is it wrong to want so much sex???

#1 15-12-2006, 04:20 AM

Hello, MY question/situation is like this. I am married now for 1 years and my husband has no sex drive at all. I have to always make the first moves, when I do, he always finds something wrong like "its too cold, its too hot, your ass stinks, get the cover, etc". There are times when if i suck his dick, he starts screaming and tells me to get off of him."it tickles" how can 4play tickle... If he do finally got his penis inside of me, he'll cum and that will be the end of the show meanwhile i am sitting there horny still ( i mean he'll let me cum, but he has stop moving and i have to do all the work) To talk about that, for me to get him on top to ride my ass, to get him to do any other positions other than me on top is like mission impossible. he has gone down on me all of 95 times in the past 12 months and i try to coach him on that and he just gets upset. Now, i eat him out and do a damn good job, he coaches me and i listen because i want to satisfy him. ( he is my husband) WHY CANT HE DO THE SAME FOR ME????? It can not be me because i am a very attractive gal who is in nice shape, i have a great job and we have a grt house and i couldn't imagine a better life. I just want a good sex life. i want to come home one night and he wears a sexy number and just fuck me and sex the hell out of me. (i tell this is what i would like but he will not do anything) I am only 22 years and he is 49, i feel like i am married to a monk... can you give any help because honestly the dept manager is starting to look very interested in me, i dont want to him to wear green hat. "understand"?

MMM88 · #2 15-12-2006, 01:34 PM

yo....wow...the BIG age gap....27 yrs ....try ROLE play ...mayb tat will excites him.....

btw...wat is grt house ??? garden house ???..

Castrol · #3 15-12-2006, 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by elina

There are times when if i suck his dick, he starts screaming and tells me to get off of him."it tickles" how can 4play tickle...

why, you got a moustache?

btw you say he's already 49, you cant expect him to be like a young man in heat or something right? give him a break.

Know_yr_role · #4 15-12-2006, 01:58 PM

sad to say, many failed marriages are due to the lack of sexual energy between couples...i know a few frz in tat situations.. its very impt to commnuicate with yr spouses.... if really cant work out pls seek professional help, go for counselling, if all else fails, i think its time to find another manz....

alot got to do with yr age gap also..u are young n full of sexual energy, u are at yr peak while yr husband sexual desire/drive is lowered due to age....

jus my 2 cts

randyboy73 · #5 15-12-2006, 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by elina

Hello, MY question/situation is like this. I am married now for 1 years and my husband has no sex drive at all...... I am only 22 years and he is 49, i feel like i am married to a monk... can you give any help because honestly the dept manager is starting to look very interested in me, i dont want to him to wear green hat. "understand"?

Hey little sister...

i do think that you and your hubby should attend some counselling together.. usually when the man is not too keen on sex it could be one of the following reasons:

1. He has a mistress that he is bonking on a regular basis so he is spent each night he comes home
2. He is not attracted to you physically (you may be young and attractive, but he prefers your intellect over your body contact)
3. He is having a realy stressful time in the office, such that he is drained of any energy for love making
4. He fancies variation in lovemaking sessions, ala as bro MMM88 said, try role play
5. He goes for WL, FLs and PTMMs... (maybe he also has a nick with SBF)

Key is you will probably be able to get him to admit to points 2, 3 and 4.. good luck if it is no.1 or 5 ... Talk to him and if need be get the counselling session.. sometimes it is better this way.. alternatively, get him to read the erotic stories in SBF, maybe that will teach him a thing or two about how to treat a lady....

I am not making fun of you as i really believe that the above 5 points could be valid.. Bros out there, feel free to add on as I believe I missed out on some other possibilities.

wildbeast · #6 15-12-2006, 02:08 PM

My empathy to you gal. Sex is always mutual and a spiritual things. I feel is the mind that denotes FUCK or NOT, SEXY or NOT, STINK or NOT..... Physically arouse him like role-play, toys, Porn... does help. But not long run. One year alone already you must think of 365 "patterns" liao. Let alone forever together.

It would be TOUGH, but mentally arouse him would be permanent solution. Try! Hope you would get out of this sucks problem soon.

Nevertheless, please do factor in the 22/49 age difference. U r in ur prime. Ur hubby may not..... Also, dun neglect work stress, fatigue, fear in unable to sextisfy u, problems he has not tell u......

All the best to u!!!

SharkMan · #7 15-12-2006, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by elina

...I am only 22 years and he is 49, i feel like i am married to a monk... can you give any help because honestly the dept manager is starting to look very interested in me, i dont want to him to wear green hat. "understand"?

Hi Elina,

Excuse me if I'm a bit blunt, first thing first, your husband is an ASS!
Sounds like a typical MCP to me.
Secondly, is he a man??? You a sexy wife with good body, and he's not even excited? Maybe he's gay? and only like little boys? Or maybe he only like old woman with saggy breast and lots of cellulite? Or maybe he wank himself in secret too much that he doesn't need the real thing???

FUCKIN COM'ON!!!

I think the department manager IS REALLY INTERESTING!

Have a talk with your husband, seriously ask him "WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?", and make him feel guilty. Get him to talk, ask him what turns him on... It is really sad that you'll have to do this, but guess you've no choice. If he's not talking, you'll have to make the first move. If he's even half the man you think you've married to, then he should wake up! If not, bail OUT! You've many more years to go, he's more then half way into the box.

THIS IS REALITY.. What Love???? Yeah, love is important (I do believe in love), but hey, what about physical needs???

Do what makes you happy girl!

Best of luck, and pray you married the right man.

qw2op · #8 15-12-2006, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by elina

... I am only 22 years and he is 49 ...

if u dun mind my asking ... wat hv u married him 4?

#9 15-12-2006, 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by elina

Hello, MY question/situation is like this. I am married now for 1 years and my husband has no sex drive at all. I

Hi, sorry to hear that.

Maybe you can go out party with your frd.

slider_72 · #10 15-12-2006, 03:50 PM

I'm impressed. After so many replies, nobody out there has yet to offer his services to Ms Elina

When I read her post, I half expected 90% of the replies would be from bros offering to provide relief.

gilagila100 · #11 15-12-2006, 03:56 PM

Ermm errmmm ... he's oledi 49 lehh ... ofcoz engine not tat good plus maybe sometimes hard to start oso ...

Suggest the following for you two:

a) Go see counsellor. Do therapy together.

b) Get him to see a specialist for his tool. I think he might need external help like pills or other stuff to get the engine goin n running hot.

If all fails, ermm ermmm ... I knw this sounds immoral .. but either u leave him or u eat outside ... get urself a fuck buddy ...

if u decide the later, u can always pm me.

Castrol · #12 15-12-2006, 03:58 PM

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Originally Posted by slider_72

I'm impressed. After so many replies, nobody out there has yet to offer his services to Ms Elina

better dont anyhow offer service, sekali she's sherine then you will have an unforgettable time in bencoolen hotel 81...

geckoSG · #13 15-12-2006, 04:02 PM

I think he no longer have stamina already... That's what happened to my friend, her hubby who is near 50 cannot make it liao and she had to look for a fuck buddy.

The hubby knows about it but resigned his fate and allow her to satisfy herself. She is beautiful and has nice body shape.

Too bad, i too close to her and she doesn't click with me, else i sure onz her
one. She is only 27 leh.

So, threadstarter, U think carefully first. If u have high sex drive and need to satisfy your desire, then maybe a fuck buddy would help you. Else, live on life with this situation til he officially "dismissed" from his duties and you can officially seek a new replacement.

tunkudon · #14 15-12-2006, 04:55 PM

why dun go and find a fuck bubby

misterjoy · #15 15-12-2006, 05:24 PM

Sorry to hear about your mishap.

Well there some suppliments that may prolong his ejeculation eg

Horny Goat Wheat. Can be found in nature farm
Tongka Ali capsual. Guardian pharmacy

Then there is some counciling that i think you and your hubby should go. Maybe he's stress out with work etc.

You should just ban him from sex with you for a period of time, meanwhile u just have to service urself with you own toy. Maybe that will make him more horny.

Good Luck

Cheers