need help!!!

[szs13]

hi bros and sis, i have been married for 1 year and things between my wife n i from bad to worst. before marriage everything seem ok for her but after marriage things start to change. she tends to get angry for a small little things even she wanted me to do this n tt as she request and i did end up when quarrel she tends to say u can dont do this n tt nobody ask u do this. i was like wtf i am holding this r/s between us but she fucking stubborn and fucking make mi piss off... anyone who did happen this before? any solution?

i just dont want end this r/s i am still holding it but she force me to find an third party who can understand me and respect me instead. instead i seem to lost my pride even i do so much for her n end up this is what i get.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by szs13

i just dont want end this r/s i am still holding it but she force me to find an third party who can understand me and respect me instead. instead i seem to lost my pride even i do so much for her n end up this is what i get.

Divorce her as quickly as possible before you end up stuck in a loveless marriage.

[szs13]

the problem lies on i have a kid and i love my kid alot. a kid cant lose either one of the parents as i dont want to follow the others.

[Sandunes]

how long was the r/s before your marriage?

was this marriage due to shot gun?

[Big Sexy]

Stop making excuses for yourself, how is getting a 3rd party going to help?
9 out of 10 couples go thru that phase sometimes in their relationship, either you end it or learn to live with it... getting a 3rd party doesnt solve anything and will probably be your worst nightmare.

Originally Posted by szs13

i just dont want end this r/s i am still holding it but she force me to find an third party who can understand me and respect me instead.

[SBCheongSter]

You are just one of the many guys who have been through the same state after getting married.
But usually the wife will only show her true colors after 2-3 years but yours is quite fast, probably means that she had been enduring since courtship time .
Nevertheless, either you get used to it and accept her as she is, or go for marriage counselling.
I think marriage counselling is good for both of you and your kid.

[szs13]

nope bro..it was plan

[BBBJOK]

bro

Bring her for checkup. Could be depression. Medication could improve the situation

Regards

[Botakhead]

If you think you want to salvage this r/s, do it quick. If you think not worth the effort to pacify her, better get this over with, the kid is not a problem with 1 parent upbringing, depends on which parent and how well the parent can do out of this situation. Long hurt is not better than short hurt. Do it before this 'hole' gets bigger and deeper, until that time you cannot tahan anymore, your time bomb gonna explode and it will be a worst case scenario and ending with everyone getting hurt badly bigtime.

[BBBJOK]

Indeed this is urgent. Got to settle fast.

[prettymannequin]

How long were you guys dating for before marriage? This is just a communication problem. You guys just gotta air the grievances and relearn your love languages...

Also, be careful of falling into the trap of self-fulfilling prophecies. The more you think about wanting an affair, the more your marriage may become soured, fuelling your desire for an affair. Think about it.

[Happyguy801]

Sit down and have a good talk.. keeping silent will not do any good ..
Marriage is all abt communication...

[alan0338]

Originally Posted by szs13

i just dont want end this r/s i am still holding it but she force me to find an third party who can understand me and respect me instead. instead i seem to lost my pride even i do so much for her n end up this is what i get.

situation maciam what happen to my fren...anyway red light blinking liao, maybe she tao jiak outside and she trying to find comfort if u do the same...

[fishing around]

Originally Posted by Big Sexy

Stop making excuses for yourself, how is getting a 3rd party going to help?
9 out of 10 couples go thru that phase sometimes in their relationship, either you end it or learn to live with it... getting a 3rd party doesnt solve anything and will probably be your worst nightmare.

Completely agree with this bro. Something similar happened and I "had" a 3rd party for a while. Turned into one whole big mess with the shit hitting the fan too.

Just have to seriously sit down and talk it through. Marriage counseling is a good way to go.

Upped the bro for this statement. Completely agree.

[iFuck]

"she force me to find an third party who can understand me and respect me instead."

Why like this ? I don't get it .
Is this a trap ? You got third party...she get PI to gather evidence.
She wanted to break. Evidence show you are at fault.