Advice needed (wife may have STI/STD)

[x4nd]

Recently, my wife has had a bout of itchy Vagina with whitish discharge.

She visited 1 gynae and they did some test and told her its only Bacterial Vaginosis (BV) which is common and prescribed her some antibiotics.

After finishing the antibiotics she still has the same symptoms and decided to change to another gynae. This gynae took a look and said she MAY have STD/STI.. Now my wife is a bit blur on this and I think she doesn't actually know what STD/STI stands for. so she hasn't actually suspected I chiong outside before BUT the doctor did tell her that if it is really an STD/STI after the tests comes back, he will explain to her the causes (which we all know STD/STI is only transferable through intercourse or oral sex) which may lead to her suspecting me.

On my side, I dont feel any symptoms. I don't have any itch, no discharge no smell so I don't even know if I contracted anything.

Point to note is I haven't done raw intercourse but have gone for some BBBJs.

Is there a way to tell the doctor to help me or are there obliged to tell the full truth? Me and my wife, though not a perfect marriage we are still holding on and are happy with our lovely daughter. Just sex hasn't been very good (we both dont really enjoy sex with each other anymore and it is always only done during ovulation just to get that chance of another baby) and that is why I have been looking for releases outside.

I am very afraid that if her tests comes back positive for any STI/STD our marriage is gone. Any advice from experience bros here?

[HarumaJitsu]

Originally Posted by x4nd

Recently, my wife has had a bout of itchy Vagina with whitish discharge.

She visited 1 gynae and they did some test and told her its only Bacterial Vaginosis (BV) which is common and prescribed her some antibiotics.

After finishing the antibiotics she still has the same symptoms and decided to change to another gynae. This gynae took a look and said she MAY have STD/STI.. Now my wife is a bit blur on this and I think she doesn't actually know what STD/STI stands for. so she hasn't actually suspected I chiong outside before BUT the doctor did tell her that if it is really an STD/STI after the tests comes back, he will explain to her the causes (which we all know STD/STI is only transferable through intercourse or oral sex) which may lead to her suspecting me.

On my side, I dont feel any symptoms. I don't have any itch, no discharge no smell so I don't even know if I contracted anything.

Point to note is I haven't done raw intercourse but have gone for some BBBJs.

Is there a way to tell the doctor to help me or are there obliged to tell the full truth? Me and my wife, though not a perfect marriage we are still holding on and are happy with our lovely daughter. Just sex hasn't been very good (we both dont really enjoy sex with each other anymore and it is always only done during ovulation just to get that chance of another baby) and that is why I have been looking for releases outside.

I am very afraid that if her tests comes back positive for any STI/STD our marriage is gone. Any advice from experience bros here?

Hi Fellow Samster,

This is based on my personal opinion,

BV and Yeast Infection is quite common in Female and might not be a result of STD/STI or you committed BBBJ.

If the results is really STD/STI positive, depends on what STD/STI.

chlamydia, gonorrhea, and trichomoniasis is straight up that one party cheated recently in the relationship and like what you mentioned, BBBJ might be a suspected causes of you getting it and passing it on to your partner. Just that the chances of getting it via BBBJ is low, but its not impossible.

The symptoms of all is sometimes crossed symptoms with each other, hence the doctor might suspect STD/STI when you mentioned that antibiotics that prescribe to her doesn’t resolve her issue. The only way is get her to do STD/STI test to find out the issue, and that might be what the doctor will recommend.

There was once I had the same scared as you. But luckily mine STD tested all negative. End up conclusion was recurring yeast infection and it resolved after some stronger medication prescribed to her.
That was a wake up call for me that I should stop all this nonsense when I’m in the relationship as the panic and overthinking moment really unbearable since I value my relationship.

Doctor will never help you to lie to save your relationship, but doctor won’t intentionally sabotage your relationship either. However if she is STD/STI positive, i believe your wife will have certain question for her doctor which might resulted her knowing that you cheated in this relationship depends on what she is caught up with.

You can only pray that she is STD/STI negative. Goodluck

[rambutarn]

Hi bro, was in your situation before and understand your state of panic now. However at this stage we can only look forward, try to think clearly with your big brain and play by ear. Don't because panic, think it's the end of your marriage and the world then confess everything.

Not sure when your wife's STI/STD tests would be taken and how long the results would come back, but I would highly suggest that at the soonest possible, make an appointment with DTAP or Tanjong Pagar got 1 clinic, whatever clinic that does anonymous HIV and STD/STI testing, go down and do tests for yourself. Damage should be around $300++ up to even 600 or more depending on how comprehensive you want to test for. I believe HIV and Syphilis results will be out within 30minutes, Gonorrhea and Chlamydia results will be about a week or so. They will email to you if all negative (remember to keep your phone email notifs off), or will call you if positive.

Hopefully all results come back negative and you can rest assured and peacefully reassure your wife. Unless her test comes back positive instead la... but hopefully not too.

Nonetheless, wish you all the best.

[x4nd]

Hi guys, thanks for the replies. I've been playing ignorant in front of her and everything should be able to stay normal until her results come back. She took the test yesterday, doctor say tests results will come back 1 to 2 weeks.

I think even if I take now also no point. Might as well save the money and wait for her results. If positive only I go take

I guess all I can do is wait and pray for a negative STI/STD results, both for my wife's health and also our marriage.

[junmin95]

Originally Posted by x4nd

Recently, my wife has had a bout of itchy Vagina with whitish discharge.

She visited 1 gynae and they did some test and told her its only Bacterial Vaginosis (BV) which is common and prescribed her some antibiotics.

After finishing the antibiotics she still has the same symptoms and decided to change to another gynae. This gynae took a look and said she MAY have STD/STI.. Now my wife is a bit blur on this and I think she doesn't actually know what STD/STI stands for. so she hasn't actually suspected I chiong outside before BUT the doctor did tell her that if it is really an STD/STI after the tests comes back, he will explain to her the causes (which we all know STD/STI is only transferable through intercourse or oral sex) which may lead to her suspecting me.

On my side, I dont feel any symptoms. I don't have any itch, no discharge no smell so I don't even know if I contracted anything.

Point to note is I haven't done raw intercourse but have gone for some BBBJs.

Is there a way to tell the doctor to help me or are there obliged to tell the full truth? Me and my wife, though not a perfect marriage we are still holding on and are happy with our lovely daughter. Just sex hasn't been very good (we both dont really enjoy sex with each other anymore and it is always only done during ovulation just to get that chance of another baby) and that is why I have been looking for releases outside.

I am very afraid that if her tests comes back positive for any STI/STD our marriage is gone. Any advice from experience bros here?

bro if i were you, i would just make an appointment first at DSC and test first for the result so at least don't need to scared wife doctor chut stunt at the result.

also, you must consider from 3rd party view rather than your own view. yes while STI points to one party get from outside, this may not mean that you are the one cheating. she could also be the one cheating. the crux of matter here is to be firm and verbal in your suspicion with her. Don't be quick to admit anything; rather, be shocked that she kena STI and full on act like you suspect she cheated or something. Then give both of you some leeway by "compromising" that you 2 forgive each other whoever that has cheated and move on for sake of daugther.

At least liddat can hold on the marriage without being "beaten down" by wife for the rest of your marriage life.

Also, if the sex is bad, suggest you just don't do the sex anymore since you also release outside already.

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to give a bit of context why i give above advice. I am mutual friend with this couple, both the wife and husband are good friends with me and my gf. They were also in same situation and then the wife kena UTI first which lead to test come out positive for gonorrhea. End up when we help them settle time, my gf talk to the wife then found out she actually had ONS with someone outside that hubby don't know and she don't want tell her hubby. The hubby also got cheong outside so he also don't want wife to know. We listen both ends and tell them to make compromise forgive each other for sake of kids.

[rambutarn]

Ya i agree with junmin bro and stand by my point that you should go take an STD test asap as well, cos if touch wood she rly tests positive, 1. there might be a chance it's not from you, and 2. if you know you're negative for sure already, you can be more assertive that it's definitely not from you, you can go test and prove your innocence etc. But if you don't know your own result, you might end up panic and the way you act might show that you're guilty and end up the blame all pushed to you instead. Also, if touch wood your test comes back positive earlier than hers, you got some time to think what's your best strategy to save your marriage, or even faster get treatment and hope it clears before you go for your test afterwards. This is just my two cents to prepare for worst case scenarios la... But still definitely hope for the best for you and your wife

[BroRelax]

Originally Posted by rambutarn

Ya i agree with junmin bro and stand by my point that you should go take an STD test asap as well, cos if touch wood she rly tests positive, 1. there might be a chance it's not from you, and 2. if you know you're negative for sure already, you can be more assertive that it's definitely not from you, you can go test and prove your innocence etc. But if you don't know your own result, you might end up panic and the way you act might show that you're guilty and end up the blame all pushed to you instead. Also, if touch wood your test comes back positive earlier than hers, you got some time to think what's your best strategy to save your marriage, or even faster get treatment and hope it clears before you go for your test afterwards. This is just my two cents to prepare for worst case scenarios la... But still definitely hope for the best for you and your wife

Agree with bro. May I add that immediately after you tested, ask doc to prescribe you with antibiotics for STD and also jab for gonorrhea.

So while waiting for your test results, you are already in treatment and will recover earlier in case you are positive.

Also if wife later ask you to test, by then, you will be already negative since you started medication. Pay for the best antibiotic so need not take for 14 days.

[laulankia]

Originally Posted by rambutarn

Ya i agree with junmin bro and stand by my point that you should go take an STD test asap as well, cos if touch wood she rly tests positive, 1. there might be a chance it's not from you, and 2. if you know you're negative for sure already, you can be more assertive that it's definitely not from you, you can go test and prove your innocence etc. But if you don't know your own result, you might end up panic and the way you act might show that you're guilty and end up the blame all pushed to you instead. Also, if touch wood your test comes back positive earlier than hers, you got some time to think what's your best strategy to save your marriage, or even faster get treatment and hope it clears before you go for your test afterwards. This is just my two cents to prepare for worst case scenarios la... But still definitely hope for the best for you and your wife

maybe its your wife sleep around RAW. dun be surpised common for wives to fuck around behind husband backs