Will you tell the truth when you are already married ?

[Private88]

Like to check with all seasoned cheongers here, I believe you sure encountered this situation when you are with someone you tried to hook but she asked you if you are already married ? I am referring to those girls you have "KC" towards them or you are a bit of emotionally attached to them already and not ONS or pay for transaction types...

Over the past few yrs, I have incidents when I was with the girls I like and started to develop something special when this question poked out. My usual reaction is either to avoid the question or worst, just to tell the truth, at the end, no chance liao...

Like to know from those married brothers if there are any better tricks to improve the situation when asked ?

Cheers !

[Johnston]

The truth will out.
Paper cannot wrap fire.

IF your question was "already attached" the answer would be
Just Lie.
But since is Married....

You have to consider, do you want to stay married to your wife? Because today wife is no longer the silly wife of yesteryear and sooner rather then later they will find out.

Then your life will machiam a Taiwan drama show, especially if any of the factor are involve
1) many assets like money, stock, etc.
2) children
3) alimony
4) Where to put own's face??
5) divorce proceeding

Think carefully.

[Xgenre]

Depends on what type of girl you are targetting. If goody goody single girl, then saying you are married may mean game over for you. Some single girls like to hook married men though.

If it's a married lady or a fl, i think the truth doesn't hurt. It's better in fact when it sets expectations to something like 'don't expect a future with me.'

[lame-ah-pek]

I always tell them.

No point getting a whole big mess after that 3 mins.

[t123]

I think u better tell as it is, if she willing to go along then ok.
Don't even think of live in GF kinda of reason, only work for a while, if can, don't even ask for gifts or favour. We are not Michael Douglas. No point get yourself into a big mess.

[dormant]

I would tell the truth but I know that most of my cheonging friends lie.

[Medusa]

why lie when u have to tell more lies to cover up in future? unless you plan to give up ur family for that girl outside should anything happen...i would think by telling the truth...the girl would have know what to expect and stay abide by the rules of the game...

[Flesh]

Honesty up front is always best (though its an ironic talking about honesty in such a cheating situation). If the gal can't accept, then just find another more open-minded broad. After all, you aint in this for long-term commitment but for HOT sex!

[rh8611]

jus tell the truth lah.. anyway u are indeed married! go out play, remember to wipe mouth can liao!

[rh8611]

Originally Posted by t123

I think u better tell as it is, if she willing to go along then ok.
Don't even think of live in GF kinda of reason, only work for a while, if can, don't even ask for gifts or favour. We are not Michael Douglas. No point get yourself into a big mess.

i second to that totally!!

[JaguarLuv]

Many good advices here and I second them - tell the truth and have a peaceful mind. Continue to hook your fish. If she is still willing to play, then you have a game.

Word of caution though - some girls may sink too deep with you and demand that you give her your full attention - that's when situation can also turn messy.

[Johnston]

TS are you married?
this is point one.

point 2 is : watching drama series on TV very fun, but when the things happen to you, its not so fun anymore.
Im sure there are bros around who have difficult married life/divorce case and they dont like to go through the same thing again

point 3: unlike the Shaggy song, telling the Judge "It wasn't me" doesnt fly.

Point 4: However if you truly love this lady and you wish to be with her come hell or high water, then go ahead, tell her the truth and see how it goes from there.

[NightHawk88]

There are many temptation romances outside of marriage life in real life. It is risky to emotionally attach to somebody other than your married partner.

It is better to be frank with the girls and for them to decide whether they want to continue the games or just be good friends. You should probably think of the consequences which may arise in entering in such relationship. Don’t mess up your life or jeopardize your marriage.

Btw, we have many choices for sextisfaction here with no string attach; why play with fire?


Cheers.

[TheGreatOne]

For me I will come clean.

If she wants you, she doesn't care whether you're attached or married.

If she does mind then she is probably not the fling material also, move on!

[Oralcraz]

I would speak honestly. If can click, then go along. You will feel more at ease. No need to be worried about saying wrong stuff whatsoever or future argument. My experience is that by admitting being married, you actually gain more respect from the lady even though it may end up nothing.