Sex after 40

[Mythic]

Originally Posted by hhlover

I dun think is excerise or maintain diet or watever so..
Is all abt yr feeling n thinking..
I am 43 this years.. i have no problem getting hard whenever my wife touch or stroke my dick.. i can jus ready to have sex with her anytime of the day.. we can even bath together, have sex inside bathroom then come nite time have sex again..
I dun even excerise at all not even running.. walking up stair or can say walk less than 100m per days.. me n my wife try to have sex at least once a wk.. n i do PCC at least twice a wk if i got the ugre to come even after having sex with my wife..
So i think is more abt thinking..
IS U THINK U CAN.. U CAN
IS U THINK U CANT.. U CANT

Means you have high metabolism and quite an active person.
It's in your gene.
Not all have the same gene.

[itguy2008]

Originally Posted by Mythic

Means you have high metabolism and quite an active person.
It's in your gene.
Not all have the same gene.

I am 48. Can still do 2 to 3 times a night la. Have to be honest hor. This is normally not with my wife but my FB when we are on work trip together.

I don't think about my age when I was doing it. Normal days, I just make sure I can still run my 10 km daily and sleep properly like 6 hours a night at least.

Oh. Drink more water and milk. Cos older already safer to stay hydrated and need the vitamins.

Can one la. Just train for it. hahaha. Cannot find someone to f**k at least make sure you swim or run daily la.

[prince_81]

Still going strong. Sometimes need to spice up like what I shared about our fantasies n roleplay.

[yenhuijoe]

Originally Posted by jaccy

maybe your partner not sexy enough or not soft enough to make you sex arousal, try date a girl from sugarbook, the baby.

Agree with you bro, sometimes need new stuff to spice it up

[junior_cannibal]

Most if not all of us are not some male whores, so, don't be overly concerned about the number of times we can have sex at each session or in a night.
Think about it, why the ancient emperors mostly are short lives? One reason is, no enough rest yet every night kenna squeezed fry by the empress or the concubines.
As we age, try to go for quality and not quantity, if you still try to do more than 3 rounds in a night for a prolonged period, your little Joe is likely to quit before you die.

[afterburn]

Originally Posted by junior_cannibal

Most if not all of us are not some male whores, so, don't be overly concerned about the number of times we can have sex at each session or in a night.
Think about it, why the ancient emperors mostly are short lives? One reason is, no enough rest yet every night kenna squeezed fry by the empress or the concubines.
As we age, try to go for quality and not quantity, if you still try to do more than 3 rounds in a night for a prolonged period, your little Joe is likely to quit before you die.

Heard this "emperor" story from a JG lady about how the ultimate achievement is to be able to orgasm without sperm loss which is equated to losing the "life essence". She was saying this is not the same as pull handbrake, stop short of orgasm, during sex, this is supposedly not good for the system too.

She laughingly added that females on the other hand can orgasm multiple times with no similar issues. But then refuse my offer to help her with one time ... haha

[itguy2008]

Originally Posted by prince_81

Still going strong. Sometimes need to spice up like what I shared about our fantasies n roleplay.

Oh. Prince, you know your stuff. Spicing up is important. And as you get older, cos you see more and experience more. Harder to spice up.

Like last time two girls will get me excited... but now.... too normal liao. Not fun at all.

[myluckyguy]

i am in 50s and still doing 2 to 3 times a night with my young sugarbaby.. used to be able to do more but

[Neoguri]

Here are some of my thoughts.
BTW, I am 47 this year.

It is well know that sexual power and urge will decrease with age, so the question here is what is the acceptable level?
At this age, be elated if you can have it once a day without any performance enhancing drugs. Many people will be delighted with that.

I could masturbate 3 times a day when I was 20.
After I got married at 30, I can have once a day and I am really happy with it and never felt the need for more then once a day.
At 45, my general comfortable level is twice a week. - of course there are some instances where I can do more, but there are also instances where I failed (become soft before I can make my partner cum).

This is dependent on genes and fitness too.
In general, the fitter and healthy the man, the higher chance is that he will have higher sexual powers as well.
So exercise regularly not just for sexual powers but in general to be healthy.
Also be realistic that this is just to slow down the process of aging. No body can stop that.

Of course, some people are just blessed with better genes in this area and take less effort to keep fit than others, or is better able to slow down the aging process.

[junior_cannibal]

Originally Posted by afterburn

Heard this "emperor" story from a JG lady about how the ultimate achievement is to be able to orgasm without sperm loss which is equated to losing the "life essence". She was saying this is not the same as pull handbrake, stop short of orgasm, during sex, this is supposedly not good for the system too.

She laughingly added that females on the other hand can orgasm multiple times with no similar issues. But then refuse my offer to help her with one time ... haha

You know why she rejected? Cause you are likely use any method except penetrative. She afraid after she gets one orgasm from you, she will surrender and beg for penetrative.

[itguy2008]

Originally Posted by myluckyguy

i am in 50s and still doing 2 to 3 times a night with my young sugarbaby.. used to be able to do more but

Good one man. Share your secret. How you manage to stay so ....... horny. hahaha.

[boisung]

Originally Posted by itguy2008

Good one man. Share your secret. How you manage to stay so ....... horny. hahaha.

Interested to know too

[desmondsoon]

Is it common to take Viagra before visiting massage lady or FL for enhanced performance?

[Nicktamer99]

Hi Bros,

Long time user but I only just registered. Bro Naka Timo’s the same time as me I think cause we were both active in the BKK tread in Thonglor those years back.

I’m past 46 this year and have PE and ED due to tons of work stress and a very unhappy home environment. What’s more being extremely active and fit in my younger days means I was enjoying sex very often and after marriage, baby and work stress, sex just felt to me like a bloody disaster, constant frustration and endless shame. Added to this, I sometimes wished I didn’t marry cause our fights are intense and long standing…….it isn’t always a happy home.

It’s only recently I’ve recovered and am glad to share in this forum for us old drivers.

I did not nor had the focus to search for pills or sprays but tried Promescent when my PE started. Since my problems started, there were times I can do penetrative sex and times when it just exploded while I’m in foreplay and mind you I’m a boychick becos I get along well with the other sex. All the inconsistencies just really deflated my my feelings, interest and mood for sex. At the same time work drive and focus was going down, I fell asleep at the wheel in traffic and on my flights for business I snored away and need to be awakened by flight attendants as I slept through landings and was often the last to get off. I often woke up in a plane in a daze not realizing I’m in flight or landed and missed out meals because I slept like a log.

On top of this my immune system started to react strangely giving me tons of ulcers and it took enormous will power to eat through pain, deliver speeches and presentations for god know how many years…….

I was almost at an end. Covid came and I was not allowed to travel-straight and simple. I was bored and depressed and started to focus time on myself. Realized I had lost tons of muscle mass, cardio is a wreck (taking a short 1k walk left me in a pant). Though my belly fat isn’t high and I still looked relatively fit I was a far far cry from my former self. So I TOOK some real active steps because I figured maybe just maybe my testosterone level has plunged and I’m just tired.

What I learnt: As we age and hit the big 40s, our testosterone goes down plus all the pressure and expectation we place on ourselves and from others we end up exhausted and not taking care of ourselves. More importantly we reference our younger selves thinking fucking is a performance and no longer a pleasure of just enjoying sex. The diminishing Testosterone and the unnecessary pressure and self-doubt, worry give us unneeded performance anxiety. When that happens-Hello PE and more importantly ED!

Taking care of body:

Our body is our main vehicle, it’s far easier to control what comes in then to workout hard. So I focused on food 1st.

1. Practiced Fasting and food restriction: I focused on controlling how much I would eat, what to eat, and how to eat. Dumped 99% junk food and cooked all my meals. I ensured I focused on Macro-nutrients, good proteins and fat. Fat gentlemen is greatly needed for Hormone production and well being-despite all the BS in TV. Eat monounsaturated fat, Olive oil, Salmon Beef with the fat on, Butter etc. Dump margarine, chips. Guess what my food bills actually came down. My fridge became full of vegetables and proper meats, out with processed foods and etc. it’s amazing but true.

2. Exercise: Signed up for a calisthenics course and started to work out-1st session I really wanted to die, felt like the obese boys during our BMT and felt their pain. Everywhere hurt, everything burnt. It was the 1st fucking time I cried my ass in 20+ years after exercise. Spend a good 30 mins in the sun at least 3 times a week.
Now after 4 months, I’ve trimmed alot of my fats, belly is going down in conjunction with diet and fasting from above and energy level is rising. Important thing is the sun. I also took some supplements including Tongkat. Tongkat is good for the beginning but I think and have read that prolonged use doesn’t help it works great for rats but not for people, if it works for you do go on, for me it started to loose its effects after the 1st real bottle.

3. My Spear (KKJ in case you don’t get it): Started to get good wooden erections and it stood up on end. It’s welcoming to be greeted with a solid erected dick when I wake up in the mornings. It’s like Good Morning I’m ready and your body is ready for any ACTION!

Taking care of performance anxiety (the mind)

1. Decided to go back to basic: I’m here to enjoy myself and to enjoy the intimacy and the fuck, regardless if it’s BJ, HJ, Petting, and eventually fucking. Fuck the idea of performance if I shoot I shoot, no need to explain no need to justify I’m recovering and if I fail I’ll accept, just press on and enjoy being with her/s.let go of the shame. Sex is a pleasure not a performance sport.

2. Breathing: Breathing is key, forget trying to hold it in or push it out, just breathe to your partner’s rhythm, as she gets high, you’ll get high together……let go of trying to ensure you pleasure her, focus on enjoying her. And you’ll breathe deeper, better and you’ll enjoy her total smell. Awesome feeling to know when you do this she’s enjoying it as much as you.

Result:
Due to my ability to take punishment and suffer to get fit and realizing what I did wrong. I’m now glad and able to state I no longer shoot before penetrating. Like most 40+ year olds. I enjoy seeing my partner strip, it’s deliciously exciting seeing the dress drop and the tits, cunt and all her naked glory gets shown in full. The BJ and HJ doesn’t get us off too much anymore because we all know its their foreplay for us, what’s fun is petting her and getting her wet. Her moans, her squirms her submission slowly and surely………... The fucking that comes later is really quality, fun and pleasurable, what’s more my partners gladly allow me to finger them to excitement. If I do shoot earlier because they are turned on by being turned on by me the feeling is still great because what’s more exciting gentlemen--than seeing your partner high, soft like butter in your hands, breathing hard, slightly sweaty and just grabbing you because you fucked her in every sense of the words regardless of Dick or Finger.

What I found Ironic yet true. When younger all I wanted was to fuck and have them orgasm at the same time I did. Strangely after the above, I realized and was told by some partners that they actually didn’t or don’t always enjoy the penetrative sex because some of us don’t fuck well! HAHAHAHAHAH. What they do want is to be well petted, feel loved and if I finger them they greatly feel the connection because they feel I got them off unselfishly. Of course for the partners who orgasmed from penetrative sex that connection is more magical and more precious-which means I get to do it again either on same session or at another time.

Summary:
Take care of number 1 gentlemen. Invest in ourselves! Focus on getting our testosterone up, stay fit and healthy. Supplements are a choice can be with or without. As for Prilligy, Ciallis etc, use it but understand it’s still (from my point of view) a temporary fix. If you do get strong you’ll get strong eventually in all areas. Lastly as men, we like and feel mutual orgasm is the best thing out there and the holy grail. Let that go-enjoy the sex, enjoy her. You’ll get back the control and you’ll BOTH be looking forward to the next session whether immediately or later. I sincerely hope I’ll be fucking till the day that I die and I can maintain the above.

Glad to share and hope other brothers who had success can also share their secrets with us.

Unashamedly,
Nick

[bignehneh]

Hi Nick

Well said! I think taking care of your body is the best you can do. Imagine we slog for work, giving up our health in exchange for pay. When they fired you at age of 60, they left you with a wreck body and you have to spend a lot of $$$ fixing it. Health is money so focus on getting ur body in peak condition.