A Lost Relationship- Learn to Let Go

[big wood]

no matter what time will heal everything

[wishy51]

bro.. stay strong.. i kinda understand wat u went thru altho mine is alittle diff..
i had a gf when i was 19 & she passed on due to her lost battle frm cancer.. altho i said i dun mind abt her conditions when i 1st knew her, but it still hurts up till this days when i recalled the pain she gone thru.. till nw.. i still dun dare to commit myself in a r/s..

[hella21]

Originally Posted by wishy51

bro.. stay strong.. i kinda understand wat u went thru altho mine is alittle diff..
i had a gf when i was 19 & she passed on due to her lost battle frm cancer.. altho i said i dun mind abt her conditions when i 1st knew her, but it still hurts up till this days when i recalled the pain she gone thru.. till nw.. i still dun dare to commit myself in a r/s..

Bro, u stay positive and strong too. Hope somebody will enter ur life and give strength to you real soon...

[kewlest]

nice article
support

[adver]

Originally Posted by machoman

Meaningful article.

Thanks for sharing, bro.

Bro,
coming from you is a complement.

Cheers...

[Sex4ever]

Feeling down .....

I came to this site and came across this topic which i read almost everything.

Still i did not stop thinking of her for 4 weeks already and especially the moment she told me "we should take a break", but i am learning to let go


But to all the bros and sisters who had just broke up with their love ones, we will learn to let go one day

[walabis]

曾经读到这段。。can't remember where but thought quite meaningful

两个人在一起久了，就象左手和右手，即使不再相爱也会选择相守，因为放弃这么多年的时光需要很大的勇气。也 许生命中会出现你爱的人，但那终归是过客，你还是会牵着你的左手或者右手一直走下去。痛了。。。自然就会放 手～

[bloopz]

thanks TS for sharing the article.

i believe other then learning to let go, it is very important to learn from past relationships. if u already have ur fair share of failed r/s, it is time u should self evaluate!

whenever something goes wrong, it is usually quite convenient to push the blame to ur partner:
he/she doesn't give me enough attention.. he/she doesn't wanna have sex.. he/she doesn't care about my feelings and flirt with others.. he/she is not sexy enough.. he/she is too demanding..
the list of how u can blame others goes on and on..

if u ever realize u r saying such things, no matter how true it is, u have to realize u r complaining! and complaining releases negative energy which will result in ppl staying away from u. (imagine urself looking at someone smiling and another complaining, who will u prefer to hang out with? u get the idea!)

there shouldnt be any relationship without quarrels/arguments as no one can ever agree with another fully for everything. so it is through such situations that make or break a relationship.

both parties have a part to play in quarrels/arguments. be honest with urself and take responsibility on what have u done for the relationship or ur partner to result in the situation. if both of u handle the argument well, instead of breaking up, u will be able to understand each other much better after the argument!

the most important lesson i have learnt from my past relationships is that one should never set expectations for others. if u want something to be done, do it urself. and, if u do something for ur partner, don't expect them to return the favor!

if u expect something n nothing is done = disappointment
if something has been done without u expecting = surprise

[Impurfact]

Interesting, appreciate your sharing.

[LoveAngel]

I always believe the man (or woman) whom i (we) have loved & lost are just a season in my path. It doesn't make the hurts go away but it does help soothe the pain a little & helped me accept that the end is real & I must move on. At least for now.

There’s a reason and season for everything

When you’re living in a season
and that season is done
When the spring has past
and summer won’t last
From green to red -
and yellow seeming-like-gold
the leaves start to fall
then everything grows dreary and dull…

When you’re living for a reason
and that reason is gone
tears start falling while your heart’s breaking
but there’s nothing you can do
to stop things from withering

And then everything goes wrong
You feel so cold and all alone
The snow starts to fall – melting in your eyes
You sigh and ask God, Why?

Then God sings the Ecclessian song
Life has its seasons,
and everything happens for a reason

There’s a time to laugh
and a time to cry
a time to say hello
and a time to say goodbye

There’s a time to love and not to love
A time to hold on, and a time to let go

So, when you’re facing uncertainty
and you do not understand
why things aren’t the way they used to be
Don’t be weary – just think of it this way
there’s a season and reason for everything

[Luchofab]

Most importantly, moderate your ego well and be a gentlemen. You won't suffer

[jenny]

Originally Posted by hella21

When a person leaves you, learn to let it go.

Very true...I absolutely agree

[mascato]

To let go does not mean to stop caring,it means I can't do it for someone else.

To let go is not to cut myself off,it's the realization I can't control another.

To let go is not to enable,but allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to try to change or blame another,it's to make the most of myself.

To let go is not to care for,but to care about.

To let go is not to fix,but to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge,but to allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,but to allow others to affect their destinies.

To let go is not to be protective,it's to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to deny,but to accept.

To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.

To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,but to try to become what I dream I can be.

To let go is not to regret the past,but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fear less and love more ! Remember: The time to love is short

[arlken84]

thanks for the write up.. very indepth, and just the thing i need... the past few months have been hell for me. but that's a story i'll keep personal for now. focussing on these posts.. its exactly what i keep telling myself, but i guess i had to find some peace in the knowledge that someone else had this concept too..

[MrPilot]

perfect article. thanks for sharing bro!