My de facto husband

[Snowkit]

Finding myself falling deeper into the sexual scene with other man.
Deriving excitement, ecstasy, thrill with other man but not him.
I have told myself that it will be the last, but the lust in me won't let me go.

I just don't understand what is wrong with watching pornography that he called me crazy. I used to do that with ex-bf back when we're still together and they find it a major turn on. I was slightly annoyed by his remarks.

I really wish he will initiate, approach or seduce me. He never did (in recent years). I am always the naughty kitten that playfully pull down his boxer.
I am finding myself abnormal.. There are times I start to question his sexual drive. I swear I'm not demanding. Once a week is what I'm asking.

I wish he will snuggle me from behind and make me feel his erected rod, prompting me to pound on him. He never did. Till date, I'm still mulling over this erotic scene that my recent ex-bf has left me with. At times, guilty of lusting for ex-bf because we never had sex before.

I really wish I could leave this place one day. I feel bad betraying him.

Any ladies who have similar experience and is cheating behind hubby?

[HoWT]

Sis

You are not alone. I cheated my wife by bonking FLs and WLs

[banana81sg]

did u ever have a talk with him abt the issue?

[prettymannequin]

Woah usually it's the husband ranting about the wife...

So you never had sex with the husband, ever? Do you know what turns him on? You could try working from there.

[looneytoon]

It's normal that we women have own sexual desires & fantasies. he may not understand as think some men quite straight-forward & not into these kinky foreplays. Perhaps try to talk to him & guide him.

[Jhonbust]

Did you speak to your husband about it?
Sometimes throwing signs around does not do any help.
Problems come with solutions.

[sarahxx]

hi sis,

totally understand how u feel. was in the exact situation as u, but im not married. its my ex bf tht had super low drive. my drive is high, hence i always feel unsatisfied n unhappy bcos i always had to initiate any form of intimacy. we were tgth for a long time but i wasnt happy. until one day i met someone that cld fill that sexual void that he cld not provide me with.. he was fun, spontaneous and sexciting.

but is this really what i want? no. though this guy can provide me with all sorts of fun, we weren't right for each other in other aspects.. character fit, outlook in lfe etc. i do miss my ex, and looking back in retrospect i wld hv been more open w him on how i felt abt our sexual situation. mayb things wld hv been different, i dont know.

anw, my point is. i guess u hv to ask urself how much u love ur hubby vice versa n weigh out the consequences if its worth it or not. having an open convo (which i didn't have w my ex, and regret till this day) will definitely help for u to judge how to proceed further. don't exactly know ur full situation so cant comment much but.. sometimes its better to stop before u're in too deep.

all the best.

[porscheclub]

Sis, you mentioned "In recent years" so how was sexual life with him earlier on? There must be something in him that made him a husband?

Perhaps there's some other issues that you didn't notice & he might be filling sexual needs from 3rd parties as well?

I'm very fortunate to find a wife who's into porn as much or more than me so you're perfectly normal & sometimes she'll watch alone when I'm overseas. In fact, we communicate a lot on this as her happiness is mine and I discovered that she likes being abused, raped, rough sex, the helpless kind of feeling & even S&M. She has never discussed such with anyone before cos she felt dirty & it took months for me to open her up.

There's a problem for you though. Women in our part of the world is branded as sluts for what you're doing & you risk pregnancy other than diseases so please use toys if possible for now. Men can smell a horny woman like piranhas to blood so please take care of yourself especially if he or worse, your friends or relatives found out.

Try to find out the problem in your relationship first & never ever tell him about your trysts.....

[doubletap]

Originally Posted by Snowkit

Finding myself falling deeper into the sexual scene with other man.
Deriving excitement, ecstasy, thrill with other man but not him.
I have told myself that it will be the last, but the lust in me won't let me go.

I just don't understand what is wrong with watching pornography that he called me crazy. I used to do that with ex-bf back when we're still together and they find it a major turn on. I was slightly annoyed by his remarks.

I really wish he will initiate, approach or seduce me. He never did (in recent years). I am always the naughty kitten that playfully pull down his boxer.
I am finding myself abnormal.. There are times I start to question his sexual drive. I swear I'm not demanding. Once a week is what I'm asking.

I wish he will snuggle me from behind and make me feel his erected rod, prompting me to pound on him. He never did. Till date, I'm still mulling over this erotic scene that my recent ex-bf has left me with. At times, guilty of lusting for ex-bf because we never had sex before.

I really wish I could leave this place one day. I feel bad betraying him.

Any ladies who have similar experience and is cheating behind hubby?

let me give u a quick roundabout of how things ll revolve u in the time to come:

- u ll still keep on having hyper sex with tat other man (if I m not wrong, he s a married man).

- u ll still be complaining here tat yr husband is not having sex.

- u may not be asking for divorce, but ll still keep complaining abt yr husband n tis gives u a consolation tat u r fucking the other man.

wat I see in u:

- u r more high profile than yr current husband, while tat other man is of higher profile than yr husband.

wat I think u shd do:

- go for a sexcapade with yr husband; which I dun think tis s in yr mind. u would rather to go with the other man. m I right?

well, for u, I really cannot type on more.......... take care n all the best in yr sexual endeavours! n hope yr relatives or frds dun bump into you at the hotel.

[demonhunter]

Originally Posted by Snowkit

Finding myself falling deeper into the sexual scene with other man.
Deriving excitement, ecstasy, thrill with other man but not him.
I have told myself that it will be the last, but the lust in me won't let me go.

I just don't understand what is wrong with watching pornography that he called me crazy. I used to do that with ex-bf back when we're still together and they find it a major turn on. I was slightly annoyed by his remarks.
?

I understand what you are going thru . We are of the same kind .

Call me .

[Snowkit]

We have been through thick and thin, Forgive and forget.
I am always tempted by the better options outside, but everything has its pros and cons. Finally I'm succumbing to my fate.

It could be that I'm more like a mother to him than how we just started. Which is why he begin to lose sexual interest in me?

Thanks for classifying me under the slut category.
But I would like to reiterate that I am not FL.
I'm a girl, can you feel what I feel when he's not interested to have sex with me and I have to doubt my attractiveness.
I know it's wrong to betray him.. While I'm not sure if he's doing the same?
You could say I'm a open-minded person because I am perfectly fine if he's doing others (as long as it's a NSA, protected sex kinda relationship)

Finally, who doesn't wish her/his husband/wife could fulfill her sexual desire?
To find someone that has best of both world is not easy.
I will try my best to be a good wife.
Thanks all for sharing your thoughts with me.

[sarahxx]

funny how in this society whenever women get into relationships like this we're always labelled and frowned upon. but somehow it seems okay for guys to do it and get away with it.

hope all goes well sis, happy to lend a listening ear. pm anytime.

[porscheclub]

Originally Posted by sarahxx

funny how in this society whenever women get into relationships like this we're always labelled and frowned upon. but somehow it seems okay for guys to do it and get away with it.

hope all goes well sis, happy to lend a listening ear. pm anytime.

Well, it was a caution for ladies as this is unfortunately a fact brought on since antiquity & due to the productive organs as well, women have to bear the consequences.

I can relate to how Snow feels because someone close to me had the same problem before only to find out after marriage that the husband does not want children and sex is non-existent. She tried many times to seduce him but failed and it ended with a divorce.

Marriage is a lifetime of commitment & happiness, so I urge her to consider her remaining years if she wants to live in a half-filled life or vibrantly with the right partner. The only advantage is they don't have children but firstly please work out the situation as something else could have triggered the non-interest from the husband or as mentioned he could've been seeing another woman as well.

The sexual partner/s is but a panadol. A quickie to numb the pain but it doesn't treat the sickness.

[Yakuza]

Originally Posted by demonhunter

I understand what you are going thru . We are of the same kind .

Call me .

lol... u r always the same kind with any ...

[Yakuza]

Originally Posted by Snowkit

We have been through thick and thin, Forgive and forget.
I am always tempted by the better options outside, but everything has its pros and cons. Finally I'm succumbing to my fate.

I'm a girl, can you feel what I feel when he's not interested to have sex with me and I have to doubt my attractiveness.
I know it's wrong to betray him.. While I'm not sure if he's doing the same?
You could say I'm a open-minded person because I am perfectly fine if he's doing others (as long as it's a NSA, protected sex kinda relationship)...

with an open minded thinking and accepting ur other half NSA ... mmm .. well .. guess u hv the urge of "the grass is greener on the other side of the mountain"

All I can say is, u r perfectly normal. Remember, we r all born and brought up differently and with different backgrd and cultures & habits ... brought together in marriage .. there will be bound to hv differences, and tat's why there's alway conflict of interest.

with his cold attitude towards u... am no surprise tat he may not even bother if u hv any outside NSA or not .. so... just give urself a little bit more time and observe and aso try to hint to him like how's work today, or could we hv a stroll at the beach or are u free tis weekend to visit Ubin Island and see his respond .. that will somehow tells u something ... cheersss

take care