My story

[chubbybastard]

Since I always comment on other people thread maybe I should share mine as well. WOT though so be forwarned.

I am in my mid/late 40s, single, chubby, live in my own 4 room resale HDB alone and have a stable job until I was laid off about 9 months ago. Have some savings (about $200k) but that's not the point. Had several relationships in the past but none made it more than 6 months. Had vietnam, thai, malaysian, chinese and indo gf and of course tonnes of paid sex aka hookers but after 2-3 months of relationship and sex I just get bored. Most, if not all are not very fun in bed or maybe i have a warped perception of "fun" in bed. Plus I don't find having penetrative sex particularly exciting after the age of 35. I prefer role play ending with mutual masturbation these days. On the bright side, no risk of unwanted pregancy. Lol.

As I was jobless with too much time on hand and some money, i turned to my fetish now turned obsession with public nudity and BDSM (master slave role play). I drift deeper into the black hole with every passing day. Even paid to watch videos online.

Anyway 6 months ago, while I was holidaying in Bangkok, I come across this thai girl on dating platform (tinder if not mistaken) and got hooked. She was into public nudity and is a submissive. I was like, this can't be real. I can't be this lucky. Some scam maybe. But I took a chance and agreed to meet in a shopping mall in Siam Paragon. So that I can bail out if things don't seem right.

Lo and behold she is real! A fair thai milf in her mid 30s, slender. Chatted with her for a bit in a cafe and found out she is in it for the money. Which is totally fine by me. She wanted to be my sugar baby for $2k per month (that's Singapore dollars btw) not cheap by Thai standards. Gave it a thought but I concluded what the heck, give it a try for a month and see how.

But boy she was everthing I have fantasized about and more. I can't never forget all the daring public nudity she did, like wearing miniskirt with no panties and bra teasing me and on lookers with her fully shaven pussy. Or stripping and running naked in the middle of the night in Lumpini park (not sure if there are cameras). Or stripping naked with a collar and leash when she enters my airbnb house calling me "master" and me walking her around the house on all fours like walking a dog. Just like Japanese AV. Absolutely blew my mind.

Needless to say, what is by right a month long holiday in Bangkok turned to 2 months and then 3 then 4. But the cost is a real killer. $2k per month allowance + airbnb + shopping, eating out, travelling within thailand took its financial toll as my savings depleted much faster than I anticipated. Decided to wake up on the 4th month and end the arrangement with her. Returned to Singapore thereafter.

Its been 2 coming 3 months that I'm in Singapore now. Still have not found a job. Still jobless. Doing grab food to earn a few dollars to buy cai fan. But I can't get her off my mind. I really can't concentrate on anything else. I even dream about the times we had constantly. Its like I am going crazy. Never felt this way about any girls throughout my entire life. I am even contemplating selling off my HDB taking all my money and just live out my life in Bangkok with her but I know its stupid. Its not feasible nor will it last because the money will eventually run out and she gonna leave my broke ass but I can't help thinking and its driving me crazy.

Any bro has experienced something similar and any advise? Please don't ask me to get a decent girl and get married because that just won't work for me. Besides I don't know any decent girl who are into public nudity and BDSM.....

[0541774]

Just go back and continue where u left off. Find a job in Thailand too. How many more years can u afford to waste? Just do it.

[fallen11]

your mistake is thinking $200k is "some money".

what you can do now is make enough money first, so you can play without worries in future with all the time you have left in your life. Still need to make out a play budget to stick to of course.

Have a target savings or passive income to reach for. then just enjoy the fruits for the rest of your life.

your $200k savings could have doubled in 5 years' time, before putting in additional savings. look how it compounds. You could be in early retirement within 10 years if you didnt make that mistake.

[chubbybastard]

Originally Posted by 0541774

Just go back and continue where u left off. Find a job in Thailand too. How many more years can u afford to waste? Just do it.

Is it easy to find a job in Thailand considering I don't speak read or write thai? Hmmm....that never crossed my mind but you make a good point.

[0541774]

Originally Posted by chubbybastard

Is it easy to find a job in Thailand considering I don't speak read or write thai? Hmmm....that never crossed my mind but you make a good point.

If u can do grab in sg, pretty sure u have no issues finding a job there.

[Needsomeadvice]

Rent out your hdb
Move to Thailand

[Pictionary]

Teaching ts about life

[chubbybastard]

Originally Posted by Pictionary

Ok, understand decent job not easy to find. To really survive in sg, need to be handy man cum project cum hands-on_testing cum programmer cum security cum sales. Also having a specialisation in a particular field is not easy.

Need to make plans for myself. I want to find a relaz job to retire well. It takes one slight mistake for early retirement. Sometimes it is really selling oneself life to the company.

I wouldn't put it that way.
If your sole purpose is to look for a job, like any job, it is actually easy to get in Singapore. But good jobs with good culture and good bosses are mighty difficult to get.

I do admit I am abit picky about jobs. But I am not complaining about being jobless, far from it. I'm perfectly happy to do grab coz mental health is more important to me than money.

[Pictionary]

Show ts the way of life

[East]

Originally Posted by Needsomeadvice

Rent out your hdb
Move to Thailand

This is the best middle ground isn't it ?

What you do lose is your active income when you are employed in Singapore.

And you should know, a buffet, no matter how good, loses it appeal over time if you have it every day.
But if you only dip in from time to time, then the buffet will always be something for you to look forward to.

[Pictionary]

---Assume u have read, always look w a positive outlook in life. It's v tough down the road. If u happen to survive down the road, just say thanks to god. It's the god's grace that help you, not me. In fact i just lost my bag and found it again. It's god's grace that helps me to understand the cleaning aunties tough hardships. In fact the cleaning aunties are the true heroes, not me.

[expatamerican]

Why dont you get a decent job in Singapore and fly her up here every month or two? You said you stay alone so there is no hotel cost or any other major expense other than a cheap air ticket and whatever you decide to pay her. I bet you could get her to come up one week a month for $500 or so. Long term affordable also.

[havana]

If I am U, I would rent out my M/B and 1 bedroom.. getting around $2k per month I wont touch my savings. Then I will get a temp job and work for a month or 2. Temp job should be easy to find.. After that I can go Thailand live a few months until the salary & rental delplete then come back SG and repeat the cycle again

[chubbybastard]

Originally Posted by expatamerican

Why dont you get a decent job in Singapore and fly her up here every month or two? You said you stay alone so there is no hotel cost or any other major expense other than a cheap air ticket and whatever you decide to pay her. I bet you could get her to come up one week a month for $500 or so. Long term affordable also.

That would cost even more, no? I am still looking for a decent job but its hard to come by. I'm in a specialized field so its not that simple.

Besides, she did say that she wants a more "long term" sugar daddy/ sugar baby arrangements i.e. not those 1 week or 1 month kind. Otherwise there are no promises she will be available if she manages to finds another long term sugar daddy.

[chubbybastard]

Originally Posted by East

And you should know, a buffet, no matter how good, loses it appeal over time if you have it every day.
But if you only dip in from time to time, then the buffet will always be something for you to look forward to.

That is indeed true. But right now she's the only thing on my mind. Like the craving of your favourite food. Actually more like addiction to drugs. I'm having withdrawal symtoms!