Do you ever feel guilty?

waitawhile · #1 07-01-2013, 08:52 AM

In this age and time, having a fling, extra-marital affair, ons, FB etc seems a common thing. Married bros and sis, do you ever feel a sense of guilt when you indulge in such acts, even though you do not intend to leave your wife/hubby?

Does the marriage vow that you took at the point in time where you promised each other to stay truthful till death do both part came to your mind when you engaged in such acts?

It is a dilemma to me. Just want to get a sense what are the general thoughts.

piggylin · #2 07-01-2013, 12:55 PM

I think is very normal to feel guilty in the beginning.. but slowly this guilty feeling will become lesser.. Because the heart is already covered by lust..

mclovin_boy · #3 07-01-2013, 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by waitawhile

In this age and time, having a fling, extra-marital affair, ons, FB etc seems a common thing. Married bros and sis, do you ever feel a sense of guilt when you indulge in such acts, even though you do not intend to leave your wife/hubby?

Does the marriage vow that you took at the point in time where you promised each other to stay truthful till death do both part came to your mind when you engaged in such acts?

It is a dilemma to me. Just want to get a sense what are the general thoughts.

Yes of course will feel guilty. Esp the part after the release cos that's when your lust are being fulfilled. But when you're high, the guilty conscious will not set in yet.

What makes me even more guilty is that my wife knows that I've been sleeping around & having ONS but she is apathetic about it. At first she's upset but now she has come to terms with it n just want to keep the family together. I told her I only love her n I lusted after the rest of the women I slept with. All she does is to tell me to slowly & gradually cut down which I am trying but totally cut down is impossible for me.

tapzs · #4 07-01-2013, 01:22 PM

wat a lovely n understanding wife u have... if only all wifes have the same mindset...

blackdevil · #5 07-01-2013, 02:16 PM

The phrase "if you can't do the time, don't do the crime" comes to mind.

galore · #6 07-01-2013, 02:58 PM

I do feel guilty but I am also aware that I am human and I will from time to time make mistakes.

Meow^^ · #7 07-01-2013, 02:59 PM

Another Yes or No as an answer.....but overall, guilty will still take place in the end but the excitiment will demolish the guilt....the cycle goes on...

blackdevil · #8 07-01-2013, 03:05 PM

we are imperfect beings...just different shades of imperfection...you would be a womaniser but are totally devoted to your kids or you could be a wife beater and still a one-pussy man

frolicsome · #9 07-01-2013, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Meow^^

Another Yes or No as an answer.....but overall, guilty will still take place in the end but the excitiment will demolish the guilt....the cycle goes on...

Yes. A cat will always eat fish.

SammyNewbie · #10 07-01-2013, 03:27 PM

Not relevant to me since I am not married.

Amusingly a little trinket from religion is that a woman is actually allowed to divorce a man on grounds that he is not fulfilling his duties as a husband which involve

1) Not providing for her (food clothes whatever)
2) Not providing for the children she bears him
3) Having sex with her on a regular basis

I wonder why the third clause wasn't actually implemented for us men instead XD. I think we'd be the ones having that problem when I make observations on alot of bros here.

fictionman · #11 07-01-2013, 04:38 PM

When the build-up to the sexxion outside, the balls is boiling like a raging bull!!!...The small head has the veto power over big head..No guilt watsoever!!

But once cum, the first 30 secs feel damm guilty man...Thghts like wat the hell am I doing fcuking another woman...Wat if wat if wat if comes into my big head...The $$$ could be spend on other things blah blah...Couldnt wait to get out of the room haha...But once the adrenalin rush of cum shooting out has subside, normal "svc" resume...Slowly the guilt will vanish..

And the best part is on the way home will think of the next sexxion outside!!
Sad but true story....

mseveninch · #12 07-01-2013, 05:23 PM

I and my OC - already ended our sexual deeds for a very long time due to her medical & physical condition after a severe accident. I had her permission on outside meals to replace her duties as a wife. She also contemplate that I divorce her and remarry someone else or take one companion which she had chosen - I refused.

Its has been 25 years now since our last deeds.

Whenever I had a meals outside - I still feel guilty because only me is done not her. She can't feel anything. As a man - I had my needs too but feel guilty although I don't do it often. Once or twice a month.

Btw - OC already paralyze from neck downward after the accident.

joncheong · #13 07-01-2013, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by mclovin_boy

Yes of course will feel guilty. Esp the part after the release cos that's when your lust are being fulfilled. But when you're high, the guilty conscious will not set in yet.

What makes me even more guilty is that my wife knows that I've been sleeping around & having ONS but she is apathetic about it. At first she's upset but now she has come to terms with it n just want to keep the family together. I told her I only love her n I lusted after the rest of the women I slept with. All she does is to tell me to slowly & gradually cut down which I am trying but totally cut down is impossible for me.

i had an ex before...she just dun want to give me sex....then i pissed off and told her i went geylang after banging a CAT150 prc girl ...my ex went ballistic and crazy and smashed everything in sight at my apartment. ...almost gotta to call security .......i pinned her down and she said she wanna report me for attempted rape...messy affair... to think of her...no idea why i got such a girl as gf...

SammyNewbie · #14 07-01-2013, 05:34 PM

@fictionman: You're an honest person. Honestly, what I felt was very close to what you did. The only difference is that when you bonk alot in a short while, you sort of just go numb and then you just tell yourself it's just something you need to do to relieve a need/urge. Even if you tell yourself waste of money, you will still go XD

@joncheong: You groin was talking. I in general have ok taste in women's looks but extreme bad taste in their character

fictionman · #15 07-01-2013, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by mseveninch

I and my OC - already ended our sexual deeds for a very long time due to her medical & physical condition after a severe accident. I had her permission on outside meals to replace her duties as a wife. She also contemplate that I divorce her and remarry someone else or take one companion which she had chosen - I refused.

Its has been 25 years now since our last deeds.

Whenever I had a meals outside - I still feel guilty because only me is done not her. She can't feel anything. As a man - I had my needs too but feel guilty although I don't do it often. Once or twice a month.

Btw - OC already paralyze from neck downward after the accident.

Bro I feel for u man....Though u eat outside bcoz of de unfortunate circumstances, I salute u for sticking wz her till now...U hv my upmost respect bro!!

Chin up!